fool me once.....

so.....my ex boyfriend from a few years back called me the other day......i was completely shocked......not just cos i hadn't seen him in 4 years.....i was shocked that he had the nerve to call me after how we ended things......or on how HE ended things......let me fill you in......

when i was 19-21 years old......i met this guy......(we'll call him Fil.....for anonymity sake.....) through a really good friend......my friend was actually cousins with Fil.....giving me the impression that Fil was a good guy who lived in california but had family in salt lake, who he visited once in a while.....plus......i was just getting out of a relationship so i was a little bit on the rebound.....so i didn't think to much of it......

anyway......i should have known from the get go that Fil wasn't all on the up an' up with things......in the first month i had gotten an call from a girl claiming that SHE was Fil's girlfriend and that if i knew better that i should leave him alone......so i did.....i yelled at Fil for a bit......broke it off and told him that i didn't want to see him ever again.......next thing i knew Fil sends roses to my house telling me that he loved me and that the other girl was just jealous......

so we get back together.......i'm visiting him......he's coming here......TWO years......yeah we fought a lot......but always made up......he proposed to me "ghetto" style......just asked me to marry him......(no ring.....no one knee proposal......nothing)......introduced me to everyone as his "wife"......went to all the major family events, homecomings, weddings, funerals......you name it......i was there......and of course those were all the family events in salt lake......he would even mail me love letters......

anyway......two years later......fighting......getting back together......fighting again......blah blah blah.......i get this email from this girl in california saying that SHE is Fil's FIANCE......and i must admit......i was hella mad at her......but then i came around and realized it wasn't HER fault......it was Fil......so i start talking to her......emailing back and forth......and started comparing stories......and Fil had told HER the same sack of lies he told ME......it came down to the point where i flew out to california, met the girl and confront Fil......(and by the way, through our research Fil was with me for 2 years, this other girl for 7 years AND another girl for about a year).....

and what made me really upset......was the fact that his family in california knew the whole time......and ENCOURAGED it.......Fil's brothers, Fil's cousins and his sister knew all these different girls......yeah yeah......i had my suspicions that Fil was cheating on me.....but never any proof......and he always had an excuse......that is......until NOW.......

so i fly out to california......meet up with this girl......and she shows me all this stuff that Fil had given her.....and i show her all the stuff that Fil gave me.......and guess what......yup......all the gifts i gave to Fil for his birthday, valentines, xmas......he had given to her saying it was from him......and all the stuff that she had given him......he gave to me saying it was from him......(talk about regifting from hell huh?)

so me and this girl make a plan to comfront him.....and figure the best place would be at church.......in front of his whole family......brothers, sister, cousins.......everyone.......i walked in first......and saw his brothers......they were really surprised to see me......they asked who i came with......and i said a friend......and then my new best friend walked in......and boy did the brothers do a double take......i asked if Fil was there......and they said he was inside the chapel......so i peeked in and waved to him.....he saw me and sent his sister out to say hi......and came up to me......gave me the little "hug-n-kiss" that us polys do.....and asked how i got there......and i pointed to me new friend......and then Fil's sister went back in to warn him......

my new friend and i waited for Fil to come out......but he never did......he went out the other door.......around the church and took off.......in fact, the VERY last time i saw him......was when he was driving away......and me and my friend bye to him with a big smile.......

that was aug 2001......

Fil has called here and there......and refused to pick up the phone when i would see it on the caller id......

but this past week, my dad was waiting for a call from california......i saw on the caller id, a cali zip code......and picked up the phone......and yes.....it was Fil.....

4 YEARS LATER!!!!!!

i was shocked......couldn't believe he had the audacity to call me......told me that he wanted to get back together.....that he was sorry......and that he's "grown up" now......and that he would be coming next week to come see me.......

WHAT THE FUCK?!?!?!.......i told him that he was wasting his time......and i do have to admit......i do wanna see him......so i can tell him off to his face......but now......i don't even wanna see him.....besides.......he made a fool out of me already.......i wouldn't be able to look at myself in the mirror if i took him back......

and ME out of ALLLLL his girlfriends......he wants ME......couldn't believe it......does he really think i'm THAT stupid????.......he even mentioned our wedding song......and to honest......i've forgotten it.....i don't even remember how it goes.......but he told me that he would MAKE remember......yeah, uh-huh......right......

see.....what makes this all amusing......is that i've been praying for a second chance with an ex......and i was talking about david......i guess you have to be VERY specific when consulting the powers that be.......

motto of this blog......yup.....you guessed it......

"fool me once, shame on you......fool me twice, shame on me"

that bastard